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SAY AU REVOIR,
BUT NOT FAREWELL!

Latest in Good-by Etiquette for
Those Who Are Going Away.

Over-the-Ocean Souvenirs—Things to Eat
Are Always in Bad Form for
All
Good-by Presents.

New York, March 4.—It is the time
now to go to Europe.
You have somebody going and so have
I.

How shall we say good-by, and what
shall we give them as a memento to
carry with them over the ocean blue,
and to keep by them in the strange
countries into which they are going?

"No place like home" applies to gay
Paris as well as to smart London and
brisk Vienna. They are not American
and the voyager to these places is glad
of a home souvenir.

Just at this time the shopkeepers are
getting out all sorts of odd things to
be given away to those sailing. Of these
the "Good-by, sweetheart" book is one
of the latest, and one that can be made
as well as bought.

It has a cover of white satin on which
is lettered in gold letters "Good-by,
sweetheart."

On the first page there is an opening
in which a sample of the traveling dress
can be placed. The opening is square
and around the edges is a gummed
strip upon which a piece of the dress
can be pasted. Any kind of goods will
look well in this place, and as no one
travels in a silk gown you may be sure
that a piece of cashmere, a strip of
ladies' cloth, a square of poplin, or a
piece of blue flannel is generally found
on such a page.

The next page is for a list of good-by
presents. There are twenty lines on this
page, and on each can be written the
present and the name of the person who
sent it. On the third page there is a
place for a photograph. Here is placed
the picture of the person about to sail.
Following are six other photograph
pages, into which, it is to be supposed,
are to be slipped photographs of dear
friends taken especially for the depart-
ing one. Then comes another page de-
voted to cheering thoughts for the jour-
ey. All sorts of comforting sentiments
are here placed.

The following page
is for sea-sick
remedies. These are written in different
handwriting by different persons, and
may be extended three or four pages in
the book, each person writing a recipe.

One of the most unique features in the
book is a large space in the back for let-
ters. There are nine or ten stumps on
which letters are fastened. They are
placed in their envelopes and sealed, the
envelope then being gummed to the
stump. There is a letter for each day of
the voyage, and before starting out the
departing one makes arrangements with
her friends for these daily letters, which
must be written in advance. Seven or
eight persons, according to the length of
the voyage, are asked to write a letter.
Each does so and places the letter in an
envelope and seals it; it is then gummed
to the stump, and the voyager selects
one each day and reads it.

THE VOYAGE BOOK.

The voyage book is another souvenir
for one who is going away. This con-
tains many blank pages for the different
cities, the name of the city being let-
tered at the top. Below there are spaces
in which to write purchases, intended
gifts, notes about the town, and at the
bottom there is a ruled space for a diary
of the day's doings. A book like this
makes a very valuable souvenir for con-
sultation in after years.

The etiquette of saying good-by is
quite different from dinner etiquette. At
the latter you arrive at the last moment
and remain afterwards. At the former,
the going on a voyage, you arrive as
long before as possible. It is well to be
at a steamer at least ten minutes before
the earliest possible moment at which
you expect the voyager to go. You are
there when she comes to welcome her,
and you stay until you see the ship out
of sight.

The further etiquette is to say good-
by before you are compelled to do so.
Every one going away likes to keep the
last good-bys for the near ones, and
acquaintances are expected to say their
farewells at an earlier date. After you
have said good-by to the voyager you
should recross the gangplank and stand
upon the wharf, ready to wave good-by.
There you can visit with friends and
pass the time comfortably until the ship
sails. Do not on any account remain on
board until the last moment unless you
are one of the very few near ones who
are privileged to do so, in which case no
rules of etiquette apply.

The dress to wear when you are say-
ing good-by should be as elaborate as
possible. Wear your very best. Your
finest calling costume is not too good,
provided it is not a delicate one. You will
want your best street dress at least. A
handsome silk gown, with fur wraps, is
none too nice to wear when you see peo-
ple away, but be sure, of course, that
the dress is appropriate for street wear.
Jewelry should also be worn, and as
much care should be put upon the toilet
as possible. A rough-and-tumble toilet
is not allowable on your part.

It is not very good form to take the
departing one a present of fruit or of
sweets of any kind; the ship fare is
very good and sweets are rarely eaten.
Besides it is not very good form to give
people things to eat. It is a reflection
upon the coming bill of fare, and savors
of poor taste.

Going to Europe on a modern ocean
steamer is not a picnic on a country
barge, and there is an ample supply
aboard of everything in the way of
rations. It is much better to give a hand-
some souvenir, something that can be
looked at and enjoyed during the voy-
age.

Flowers are all very well to talk about
and a few look well in the stateroom.
but the enormous gifts of bouquets and
baskets of cut roses are entirely super-
flu ous. They must be thrown away at
sea,

the first thought of seasickness, and nine
times out of ten have disappeared ere
land has receded from sight. A very
handsome bunch of silk violets costing
$3 or $4 makes a much more acceptable
gift. These can be worn during the
voyage, and if they are really fine ones
have all the appearance of the natural
flowers. A few very wealthy voyagers
really do wear natural flowers through-
out the trip. They have them kept in the
refrigerators of the ship or in their own
private water coolers, with which many
staterooms are supplied. The bunch of
silk violets will enable your voyaging
friend to make a very luxurious show-
ning.

USEFUL PRESENTS.

Utilitarian presents are always very
nice, but the recipients should know that
they are coming. A handsome steamer
chair, an elegant rug, a steamer trunk,
a traveling bag, are all very nice gifts,
but they should be sent so far in ad-
vance that duplicates will not be pur-
chased. Finery and small trinkets
should always be avoided.

The last thing that a person thinks of
sending a voyager is a book, yet there
is nothing quite as acceptable. A set of
Stanley Weyman, Hall Caine's books,
Rud yard Kipling's complete volumes,
Marie Corelli's wonderful "Sky and
Sea" books, and Anthony Hope's latest
are all rapid enough to keep the mind
engrossed, and pleasant to pick up when
the eye tires of the motion of the water.

The proper time to go to Europe is
said to be June, but the fashionable
time is in March and April, for then one
arrives in London in time for the Lon-
don season, which comes in June and
July.

In saying good-by to a voyager re-
member one thing, namely that the say-
ing "too much of a good thing is good
for nothing" applies to good-bys, as well
as to other commodities.

Harry Germaine.