The Daily News Of The Virgin Islands

Advice to the Lovelorn
By Beatrice Fairfax
(Authority on Problems of Love and Marriage)

HE'S A LONELY WIDOWER

Dear Beatrice Fairfax:

The other day you had an article in the paper about a woman who wanted a companion (This writer is referring to a letter written to this column by a lonely middle-aged widow who wanted to meet "a man who is decent" and who might like her to go out with him occasionally. B.F.) and thought of placing an ad in the paper. Well, I had an ad in the paper and so far with no takers.

I'm wondering if there are any women who want a good marriage with a gentleman. My wife died a while back so that left me and my boy to shift for ourselves. So far, we've done good, but could do better if we had someone to care for us. I know there must be widows who want a home, but why don't they let us know?

I sure would like to meet someone. I'm middle-aged and fairly attractive, and like the outdoors, such as hunting and fishing. I don't smoke, chew or drink.

Please advise. —R.S.

Dear R.S.:

I wish I knew what sort of "ad" you had in the paper. Was it one that offered a job as a paid helper in your home to make life easier and more companionable for yourself and your son, or were you just offering a home in return for such help?

It seems to me your problem is just the same as the one described to me in the letter from the widow to whom you refer and so my advice would be just about the same as that which I gave her. In other words, you, too, are lonely and want to meet some woman who would be a nice friend to you.

If you can afford it, I think you'd do well to try and locate someone who could come in by the day as a paid worker, and take over the housework and get dinners, so that you'd feel free knowing your son would be taken care of, to go out a reasonable number of evenings to places where you could meet the kind of people who would be good friends to you. If what you have in mind is a second marriage, that certainly would be the way to go about putting yourself in a position where you might meet the right person.

Surely there must be various kinds of interesting clubs and other organizations in your town which you could join and I suggest that you start looking for them right away. But don't pick one or two of them just casually, and solely with the idea of looking for a second wife. Choose the ones which have such interesting programs that you'd enjoy going to the meetings even though you don't find a congenial woman companion right away.

Believe me, this is really your best plan to cope with the problem of loneliness and I hope you'll try it.