The Daily News Of The Virgin Islands

Advice to the Lovelorn

By Beatrice Fairfax
(Authority on Problems of Love and Marriage)

IN LOVE, OR JUST USED TO HIM?

Dear Beatrice Fairfax:

I've been going with my steady boyfriend since I was 16. He was 19 then, but it didn't seem to make any difference because we always had fun together.

But now that I'm 18 and he's 21, I'm getting confused about whether I really love him or have just got used to him. He says he loves me and I want to marry me as soon as my parents will give their consent, but I don't want either one of us to say anything to my parents yet until I know just what I want to do.

I've suggested to him that maybe if we stopped seeing each other for a few months it might help me decide, but he isn't willing to do that. Then I suggested that both of us go out with other people for awhile, but he does not want to do that, either, so what should I do?

Connie.

Dear Connie:

You have the right idea in thinking that to see less of this boy for awhile might give you a chance to find out how you really feel and you shouldn't give up the idea just because he does not want to go along with it. I suspect he's afraid that maybe you'd find somebody you liked better and he doesn't want to run that risk.

Try and make him see that since you're so confused right now, the only wise thing is to do whatever is most likely to help you find out where you stand and that if it should happen that you did fall for someone else, it would just go to prove that your mind was definitely not made up that he was the one for you and he'd be lucky you found it out in time.